How Are You Staying Sober?

The best thing in life that you can do when staying sober is to just say NO to any situation that you're not sure of getting yourself into.

I don't have to tell myself no because I don't want to do it, I don't think about doing it and I look back on my life to what it is now and know how blessed I am to even be alive.

There are so many great things that you can do to stay sober in your new life. Here are a few examples.....

1) Crafting
2) Sewing
3) Fishing
4) Volunteer with your community
5) Volunteer with your church
6) Do nice things for others
7) Start a gym membership
8) Start walking or find a nice place to take nature walks
9) Spend more time with your family
10) Make date days with your "Sober" or "Christian" friends

So this is only 10 small examples of things you can do to keep your boredom under control. I can honestly say that I participate in 9 of these things. But note: I don't do these things to keep myself from drinking. I do these things because I will go nuts if I don't keep myself doing something at all times.

I'm kind of a squirrel person. I have to constantly be doing something and I CAN'T do only one thing at a time. Like right now, I'm listening to my Christian music playlist on Spotify while I type this blog. I can't just sit down and watch tv. Like my husband or most people. If they are off work, they can literally sit in front of the tv, watch it all day and literally only do that all day. I CAN'T do that! And no, that's not a shot at anyone. I'm just talking about myself personally. I don't even turn on the tv in the living room during the day unless my grandson is over and he will watch cartoons. If I'm in my sewing room sewing then I'll watch tv while I sew and I'm usually watching I Love Lucy or The Chosen. Sometimes I'll listen to music while I sew. If I'm reading then I have to put on some kind of white noise like fireplace sounds or storm sounds to read.  And I'm not even really paying attention to it. When I lay down at night, I have the tv on in my ear to help me fall asleep better. If I'm cleaning house, I'm doing 100 things at once. etc.... If I'm cooking or baking, I'm doing 5 other things.

I just can't do only one thing. It makes me feel lazy honestly and depresses me. 

So here is my thinking on the whole subject of staying clean in your walk with whatever you were addicted to. There are no excuses to fall back into your old lifestyle. No excuse good enough. "Well, so and so invited me out to eat and we sat at the bar and he bought me a drink, blah blah blah..." NO, that's a dumb reason. You drank because you wanted to. "Well, so and so text me out of the blue and sent me a nude and it had a link to a porn site and I accidently clicked it...." NO, that's really stupid LOL. "Well, I went to the casino to eat and my money accidently slipped into the machine and I lost all my money." LIES. "Well, everyone was trying this new strain of weed and I just couldn't say no and then the meth just went up my nose on it own." No No No lol.

Okay so these are some pretty dumb examples, but I think you get the point. The only reason you will fail in your walk of keeping clean from whatever your addiction might be is to just don't do it.....plain and simple as that. 

"Well I'll show them! I'm going to go do this and that! I'll show them!!!!" ~ I used that one a lot! LOL

I will tell you one thing that annoys me THE MOST about being sober. When people will say, "Oh, we can't eat there because they serve alcohol." or "Oh, we can't sit and eat at the table by the bar, because you know, SHE MIGHT WANT TO DRINK!" or "She better not go to that party where everyone will be drinking at, she will probably drink too."

JUST LISTEN TO ME RIGHT NOW.....If I wanted to drink I would drink. I don't want to! Do you realize that every time you turn on the tv, there is a beer commercial or even the radio, there is also a commercial about drinking. You watch a movie and there is always a commercial about drinking, etc.....I wish more people had as much confidence in me that I have in myself. I have more confidence in myself than I ever have and it really feels great.

So in saying that, my tip for the day is to have more confidence in people around you who are not just trying to do better, but have proved that they are better.

I will see you all tomorrow!

xoxoxo, Michelle Neal